Father daughter concert

Father daughter concert

Photo by Oscar Keys on Unsplash

I recently took my oldest daughter to her second proper concert (she doesn’t count the one-day festivals she went to when she was little as she didn’t have a choice!). 

If you are a regular reader of my blog, you may recall that I took her to her first concert the night before Record Store Day and this time we went to see the band who were playing support that night; Whenyoung: https://www.whenyoungband.com/  (if you remember the Cranberries, then Whenyoung are similar sounding but for the current young generation i.e. not mine).

The band are on a short tour of smaller venues and we had jumped at the chance to see them at the iconic Joiners in Southampton, a local venue that has been putting on gigs for 50 years.  With only a 200 person maximum capacity, it’s an excellent intimate venue for seeing up and coming bands. https://www.joinerslive.com/

We arrived early and secured our place at the front in between the lead singer and the lead guitarist’s mic stands.  The actual gig went in a flash of singing, bouncing and cheering – mainly due to a short setlist given that the band only have one album.

During the gig, all the members of the band made eye contact with various members of the crowd (including us) and involved the audience with the music which always makes for a better a show.

My daughter was lucky enough to get a set list from the stage as a souvenir of the event (and only needed a bit of encouragement from me to get it).  I know that they make great mementos and it’s rare that you get the chance to get one. 

After the gig, the band members came out to the merchandise table to serve and meet fans.  Obviously, this is done to save paying someone else to do it and to raise extra cash, but what I appreciated was how they went about it …

My daughter wanted to buy a t-shirt and I suggested she also buy the vinyl of their first EP.  The band then offered to sign the EP for us and also sign her set list.  The lead singer took the time to look my daughter in the eye and say, “you were at the front singing all the words, what’s your name?”.  They then had a brief chat and she added my daughter’s name, a short message and her signature to the setlist, and thanked us for buying their EP and for attending the gig.  She then handed everything over to the rest of the band for them to sign.

My daughter was over the moon as she now had two signed souvenirs (although I’ll probably keep the vinyl for her, just to keep it safe!) but what really made all the difference was that the singer had noticed her during the gig and then made the effort to acknowledge and speak to her one to one.  Not many people when engaged in their craft bother to notice individuals, and even fewer take the time to speak to that individual one on one when faced with a queue of paying customers.  In this social media obsessed time the simple act of speaking to someone and giving them some of your time can get missed. 

It made me think that we could all learn from this no matter what we do.  It pays to think of the little things and to take the time to notice and acknowledge people – whether that’s clients or when we meet people socially.  Just making that little extra effort can go a long way.  For one 15 year old girl that little extra effort is unlikely to ever be forgotten.